I was reading articles on the Huffington Post today and came across one called, “18 Powerful Lessons From Relationships That Didn’t Last” by Brittany Wong.
My favorite part about this article is that it shared experiences from YOU! Not just one authors opinion but a collection of responses from a thread created on Facebook and Twitter. I found the information inspiring and wanted to share this collection of responses to you to give you value and insight on healing from your past broken relationships in order to move forward in love. The right love is worth looking for. It worth letting go of your fears and negative experiences. The right love gives your happiness that you can share with others.
The wrong love teaches you what you want and do not want, what you should be doing and should not be doing, leading you ultimately to your perfect match! These lessons can go both ways! Lessons can be learned about what you do that contributes positively or negatively to a relationship in addition to what they do. It teaches you your boundaries, flaws, and strengths. It is important to find where you might need to grow to have a healthy and successful relationship as well as discover what we will not tolerate.
Here are the 18 lessons these people learned through heartbreak:
1. “You need to preserve your own identity and your space. Embrace your individuality, pursue your interests while sharing some of it as a couple.”
2. “I learned that in order for someone to hear you, you have to talk, and in order for something to change, you have listen.”
3. “You need things in common, but not common interests — those will change. You need common values. Take stock of what’s important to you, what’s right and wrong in your world. Find someone who agrees with that and everything else will come together, more or less.”
4. “Never assume malice when stupidity will suffice. In other words, never assume your significant other is up to something if they could possibly just be ignorant of the fact that it looks like they are up to something.”
5. “You can’t love enough for both people.”
6. “Even if it doesn’t work out, marriage and a divorce can make you a stronger and kinder person.”
7. “You’re not obliged to set yourself on fire in order to keep somebody else warm.”
8. “Don’t let the fear of being alone lead you to deny what you really want. Hold on tightly to personal integrity.”
9. “To recognize and show appreciation for the love given by that other person in your life on a daily basis. They need to actually hear it. I should have said it more often.”
10. “You have to ask yourself: ‘If you were someone of the opposite sex, would you date yourself?’ That kind of made me take a look at my own bad habits and behaviors in a different light. Now when I have a fight or a disagreement in my current relationship, I try to make sure I respond in a manner I would want my partner to respond in.”
11. “Humor and IQ will last longer than good looks.”
12. The petty nuances which make your blood boil are the things you miss when your ex is gone.”
13. “There is nothing wrong with being ‘picky.’ Some things are tolerable and of no consequence and some things aren’t. The trick is finding where the line between tolerable and intolerable lies for you.”
14. “You are in control of your own happiness. You need to be happy with yourself if you are to be in a healthy and happy relationship.”
15. “Be a thinker in your relationship. Common sense should rule, not your heart.”
16. “Don’t disregard the red flags. I was insecure, naïve and thought I was being judgmental. Nope. He was a jerk and we had nothing in common.”
17. “That you should only be with someone that genuinely, freely, and entirely wants to be with you. Begging to be noticed is not healthy.”
18. “Communication in an argument isn’t about convincing your partner that you’re right. It’s about understanding.”
I love the idea of turning this into an “educational experience.”
I want to hear from you!
What lessons did you learn from heartbreak?