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Romance Bootcamp


Renessa and Heather  share life secrets on how you are attracting and/or sabotaging your love life, so you do not have to spend another month or year alone. Before anyone can find love they must first be “Liked” by the person they are attracted to.
If you have ever gone a first date and thought things went well, only to find out the person did not like you the same way you liked them…. then your attract-O-meter is off. If you have been going on dates and you have not been attracted to any of your candidates, than your attract-O-meter may be off because… you are the common denominator.
Links to the workbooks are below. In the video we go over “Your Love Story” First and then when Renessa is speaking you will go over the Attract O Meter Exercise

** Download By Clicking Here>>>Romance Bootcamp Attract O meter


8 Ways to Have Family Friendly Fun on Christmas Day!




I hope you are all spending the next few days surrounded by loved ones and for those of you unable to be with family or friends, I pray you are enjoying some refreshing down time loving on yourself and feeling peace, joy, and love. If you are looking for something to do tonight, don’t miss our Fun Christmas Eve Dinner. Come Celebrate The Season With New Friends.

I found this great article for those of you looking for ways to keep your guests entertained beyond the meal.

Hope you enjoy it and take away an activity or two from it!


If you are looking for ideas to celebrate new years, our NYE event at the EMP is sure to be a blast! We hope to see you there ready for new beginnings in love and romance!

New Year’s Eve Celebration! Spend NYE Meeting New Singles!

4 Ways to Rock Being Single During the Holiday!

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Hi Friends!

I wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from everyone here at Match Date Love! We have had such an amazing year planning events and connecting Singles. I could not ask for a better life. I absolutely love what I do and seeing so much love around me during the holidays really sparks my excitement for the following year.

I saw an article on Huffington Post this morning about being single during the holidays by  and wanted to share with you his 4 Steps to Take Charge of Your Love Life this season!

First: Join an Online Dating Site or if you are not happy with your online dating experience get private matchmaking or attend singles events in your community. 

Second: Be socially active. Hang out with friends or family. Go on dates. Attend events. He suggests joining two events a week.

Third: Try new things. Take a class or join a group on meetup. That way you are having a blast even if you do not meet someone and if you do, you already know you have at least one thing in common.

Fourth: Grow the relationships you already have. Spend time with people who love and support you and practice things that remind you to love and support yourself. When your happy and love yourself, you attract happy people who love you as well.

I loved these tips and tricks and I encourage you to try them this season.

If your looking for events this Christmas week, check out our upcoming events.

Don’t Spend this week alone. Be social. Meet new singles looking for the same things you are!

Fun Christmas Eve Dinner. Come Celebrate The Season With New Friends

New Year’s Eve Celebration! Spend NYE Meeting New Singles!

9 Ways To Date During the Holidays!



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Hi Friends!

The holidays are quickly approaching and as I was sifting through blogs on Huffington Post I found one called “Holiday Dating Do’s and Don’t,” by , a fellow relationship and dating expert and I have to say, I agreed with much of what she touched on. 

This article is specific to woman.

  1. “DO take advantage of the seasonal color scheme to wear more red.  It worked for Santa, and it will work for you too.  Research shows men may be more attracted to women in red. Several articles published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that women wearing red were rated more sexually desirable than those wearing “cooler” hues like green or brown. Whether it’s socially conditioned or an evolved biological cue, the upshot is that donning scarlet could help you heat things up. And while you’re wearing your holiday brights, make sure you…”
  2. “DON’T give into holiday blues. Impending Christmas and New Year’s can make even the most self-reliant single girl feel lonely and bereft as she bemoans the gulf between her current lot and her dreams of being in a committed relationship. The holiday season can also be tense for women with boyfriends – particularly when their hopes for the future are being obscured by his ambivalence or excuses.  Keep busy, engage your mind, exercise your body and pamper your senses to avoid wallowing in or obsessing about what’s lacking in your life right now.  Then…”
  3. “DO start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions that can help you meet your romantic goals. For example, if you’re tired of being single, maybe it’s time for you to finally start online dating — or if you’re on one site, join one or two more (it’s a numbers game, and in order to be selective you need to expand your pool of potential candidates). Maybe you need to tweak – or makeover – your online profile so it’s less wordy and heavy, more breezy and open. One of my clients just doubled the number of e-mails she was receiving, simply by changing her screen name, updating her photos, and editing her profile so it reflected her fun-loving, not-so-serious side. But…”
  4. “DON’T check your online dating account over the holidays. As I tell the women I coach, try to set parameters around when you sign into your accounts. I usually suggest you confine checking to daytime hours on weekdays. Not only is it unhealthy to be compulsively checking your account at all hours of the day, many services indicate when members are online. You don’t need to broadcast to potential dates that you’re home alone on a Saturday night – or a Christmas Eve. Instead of lurking online…”
  5. “DO hit the holiday party circuit, looking gorgeous and smiling at the universe. If you’re single these events can help you circulate in a social setting where men can find you. And if you’re attached, but feel your significant other may be taking you for granted then stop sitting home by the phone.  Enjoying your life to the fullest – and keeping busy with family, friends, work, and social engagements – reminds him you are an independent woman whose life does not revolve around him.”
  6. “DON’T pick him up at the airport. Especially if he hasn’t asked you to! Don’t be the schlepping wife-wannabe. Be his Dreamgirl. Let him arrange for his own transportation. Instead of waiting in traffic, circling the terminal, and showing up as a frazzled mess – go get a mani/pedi, blowout, etc. It may seem counter-intuitive, but acting like a wife – the home-cooked meals, the chauffeur service, the decorating his apartment – will not make him want to marry you. If anything, it will push him further away. AND you’ll end up feeling resentful when your generosity isn’t reciprocated with commitment and appreciation.”
  7. “DO your own thing during the holidays, instead of relying on the guy you’re dating to make all the plans (and include you in them). If he hasn’t suggested spending the holidays together then make your own arrangements. This includes New Year’s Eve! Introduce him to your friends and family ONLY AFTER he has introduced you to his. If he feels you’re more serious about the relationship than he is, or that you’re moving faster than he wants to then he may start having doubts and possibly pull away, leaving you vulnerable and hurt.”
  8. “DON’T buy him lavish gifts. By “lavish” I don’t necessarily mean expensive. One client – okay, alright, it was me! – tried to impress a beau by creating a handmade card by cutting out little phrases and pet names from magazines, then gluing them onto construction paper. At the time this seemed like a good idea, though in retrospect it’s mortifyingly psycho – an impression obviously shared by the object of my attention, since he dumped me right after the holidays! Men get overwhelmed when women go overboard in the gift department. They may be flattered. They may be psyched – as in, “Wow!  A 58” Plasma HDTV?!?!”  But they will also see your extremely generous gift as a symbol of your intense love – which they no longer have to win – and possibly, a reflection of your high expectations in return, which they may start wondering whether they can (or want) to fulfill. Another common dating mistake:  buying presents for his mother, sister, secretary, etc. thinking this will help build a pro-marry-you coalition of sympathetic females. If you’re just bursting with the giving spirit this season, then…”
  9. “DO volunteer. Of course this is a year-round “do,” but the holidays often present additional opportunities to volunteer, which in addition to benefiting others, can benefit your love life as well. How? Aside from the immediate benefit of putting you in the flow of meeting men who share your charitable interests, volunteering will help refresh your perspective on what’s important in life, and renewing your sense of gratitude for the blessings in your life. Both can help keep bitterness at bay – thus not only making the dating slog more bearable, but also enhancing that all-alluring aphrodisiac: inner-contentment and joy.”


What do you think about these Do’s and Don’ts?

Which one are you going to implement in the next week?








3 Reasons Self-Love Leads to Finding True Love!

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Good Morning!

I am so excited that we are halfway through the week! My team and I are busy getting everything ready for this Saturday’s Speed Dating Event at Amber in Seattle. As I was matchmaking my clients and working on events to end out 2015, I was inspired to talk to everyone about the importance of self-love while your searching for love. Self-love  is a topic I’m sure many of you have heard about before. Many of us still underestimate the important role it plays in our own happiness let alone how influential it can be in finding romance, love, and a successful relationship.

I read an article by  called, “Why Self-Love Is The Key To Finding True Love.” and came up with 3 reasons self-love leads to finding the love of your life:

Reason 1: How you treat yourself reflects how your potential partner will treat you.

You teach people how to treat you and when they see you place value on yourself, you will be treated with value by them. Not to mention you will also value yourself enough to only allow people in your life who treat you well. Insecurity can be a huge enemy in finding love.

Reason 2: You become magnetic

When you love yourself and are happy, that is very attractive to a potential romantic partner.

Reason 3: You will be authentic

Once you are in a position where you are comfortable in your own skin and love yourself for who you are, you will no longer worry about how the wrong people look at you. Your authentic self will attract the right people and your romantic love will be very natural.

I encourage you all to start self love habits!

Have a happy Wednesday!

Renessa Rios-Strong

Love’s the chase, right?

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Hi Friends!

Today I want to talk to you about the importance of dating, actually dating spending quality time getting to know each other. Many people try to rush into a status on Facebook instead of taking time to go to multiple dates getting to know the authentic person you are wanting to get into a relationship with.

I read a really simple article with 5 basic reasons why courtship is still important. If you want to check out the article by ,  click here.

Dating prior to committing helps establish mutual respect. This is not just a casual, expected respect. This is the kind of respect that can only be earned. If you rush into a committed relationship, you do not have time to teach the other person how to treat you in order to earn your respect. This leads into the next point addressed. You are taking time to set expectations. You are, as I said, teaching the other person how to treat you. This is done through communicating your needs to the other person. When you rush into a formal relationship you often get lazy at keeping the romance alive through dating. If you take time to date and date often during the getting to know each other process, then you are creating a habit of dating and enjoying each others company. It takes 21 days to create a habit, so I would even go as far as saying that you should go on 21 dates. Don’t worry, this includes the simple coffee, walk, or movie night. That 21 goes by really fast. Dating before committing is also a really good way to gauge feelings and emotions without being completely invested in the other person yet or having to publicly sort out on Facebook why your relationship status changed multiple times in the first few months of dating. Sort all that out by taking time with each other and learning the emotional triggers or make or breaks.

The most of important reason to date before committing in my opinion is the last reason on this blog: It is a chance to pursue and be pursued! Love is the chase, right? It is good knowing that someone wanted you so much they took time to prove it and visa versa. It is nice having those romantic stories or letters/emails/texts to fall back on when you start taking your relationship to hire levels or when you are feeling nostalgic as people ask you how you met. If you don’t take time to create those memories, then you do not have a strong foundation to fall back on. Easy come, easy go.

If you have not dated in a while or are just getting back into the single world, I encourage you to check out our upcoming Speed Dating Event THIS SATURDAY!  If you don’t feel quite ready for that or you can’t seem take a dating relationship to the next level, I encourage you to take time to chat with me one on one so we can get to the core of the problem. You can learn more about my coaching services here.

Happy Monday Friends!

Have a great week!

Renessa Rios-Strong

Sexual Bullying While Online Dating! Have you ever experienced this?


Hi Friends!

I came across an article writhed on the Independent Journal by  called “Woman Comes Up With the Best Revenge Ever to Expose 10 Years of Sexual Perverts!” The title caught my eye because I hear about clients who have been dealing with sexual perverts and getting bullied while online dating all the time. It is a huge problem. When people think of online bullying, they think of students and schools. They don’t realize that it is true for adults as well, specifically in online dating scenarios. Men and woman get so used to receiving message like those in this article that they forget how bad it is. This article is being specific to woman but men receive it as well.

Have you ever received a troubling message?

Don’t get me wrong. It can happen in person as well, but it takes a lot more guts to harass someone in person and it is often not tolerated. You should not tolerate it online either. I encourage you to do as much in-person dating as possible seeing as online dating is becoming almost over run with men and woman like this.

Have a fantastic week Friends!

Don’t lose hope! Your right person is out there somewhere!

Wishing You Love & Happiness!

Renessa Rios

Is Confidence in Dating a Make or Break?

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Hi Friends!

Confidence and how you feel about yourself can very well be a make or break in the dating world. I was reading through Huffington Post this afternoon and felt inspired to share ‘s article called “4 Quick Ways To Instantly Boost Your Dating Confidence!” I found all of it very accurate and true. I encourage ladies to follow her advice to find your allies and know the power of your closet, hair, and makeup. Remember, the clothes, hair, and makeup are not necessarily for him. They are for you to feel confident and be the best You that You can be! 

Men! This is for you as well. Just because that specific article is written to women does not mean that it does not have value for you as well. Men also need to know the importance of their closet, hair, and having allies. I know many Men can struggle a little more with asking their daughters or friends for style advice, but just hearing the words, “That looks great! She is going to love you,” from one of your allies instantly boosts your confidence and allows you to walk into that date with your head held high.

Confidence is what is on the inside as well but feeling confident on the outside will bring out your inner confidence. The confidence conversation can be deep rooted and some people need additional coaching to reach that inner confidence but I encourage you to start with allies and appearance. If you need an ally or additional coaching for appearance because you don’t have close family or friends in the area , reach out to us at Match Date Love and learn more about our amazing stylists and team that can support you in that!

Wishing You Love and Happiness in All You Do!

Renessa Rios

Problem With Online Dating!

Hi Friends!

This week I was inspired to reach out to singles struggling with online dating. It is not an avenue I normally encourage as I feel very similarly to Jessi about the importance of meeting people organically, gaining that in person experience. It also means more to meet people in person because you need a certain amount of courage to walk up to a person and show your interest and that alone can make a huge difference. That person knows you were interested in them enough to drop your insecurities and walk up to them. Online messages on dating sites often get dismissed because it is just like shopping as she stated. They have nothing to go on except your “hello.” No body language, no having raw, organic conversation, no seeing if they are even a real person initially or really look like their photo.

Can you relate to famous Youtuber JessiSmiles online dating experience?

What do you love about online dating?



Dating in the 80’s!

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Happy Wednesday Friends!!

Got to love that 80’s flashback from the style and music to the video quality and mannerisms! It was a fun way to start my Wednesday!

In light of tonights speed dating event, I was browsing dating videos and came across this gem! What a different world it was in the 80’s! This video dating was right before online dating became popularized in the early 90’s. It is hilarious to watch but it does present the balance of in person and online. They still had to present themselves in a public manner, whether they did so well or not, and they also had the luxury of choosing who they will meet and not based on responses to their video profile.

Online dating is not all bad and if you prefer online dating, I encourage you to follow Match Date Love on Facebook and attend our next online dating class when it becomes available. You can also click here to learn how to create a profile that creates introductions and supports you to finding a happy relationship.


No matter where you are finding your dates, remember it all ends up coming down to that in person experience. Knowing how to present yourself to get a second date is so important. I hope you take time to attend singles events to meet other like minded singles looking for love just like you and if that is something that seems overwhelming to you, please call to learn more about my dating coaching option. I want you to succeed in dating. 20 years from now I don’t want your dating profile to look like these, as amusing as they are!

What was your favorite clip?

Do you create video profiles?

Wishing you love and happiness in All You Do!

Renessa Rios