Significant Lessons Learned From Failed Relationships!

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I was reading articles on the Huffington Post today and came across one called, “18 Powerful Lessons From Relationships That Didn’t Last” by Brittany Wong.

My favorite part about this article is that it shared experiences from YOU! Not just one authors opinion but a collection of responses from a thread created on Facebook and Twitter. I found the information inspiring and wanted to share this collection of responses to you to give you value and insight on healing from your past broken relationships in order to move forward in love. The right love is worth looking for.  It worth letting go of your fears and negative experiences. The right love gives your happiness that you can share with others.

The wrong love teaches you what you want and do not want, what you should be doing and should not be doing, leading you ultimately to your perfect match! These lessons can go both ways! Lessons can be learned about what you do that contributes positively or negatively to a relationship in addition to what they do. It teaches you your boundaries, flaws, and strengths. It is important to find where you might need to grow to have a healthy and successful relationship as well as discover what we will not tolerate.

Here are the 18 lessons these people learned through heartbreak:

1. “You need to preserve your own identity and your space. Embrace your individuality, pursue your interests while sharing some of it as a couple.”

2. “I learned that in order for someone to hear you, you have to talk, and in order for something to change, you have listen.”

3. “You need things in common, but not common interests — those will change. You need common values. Take stock of what’s important to you, what’s right and wrong in your world. Find someone who agrees with that and everything else will come together, more or less.”

4. “Never assume malice when stupidity will suffice. In other words, never assume your significant other is up to something if they could possibly just be ignorant of the fact that it looks like they are up to something.”

5. “You can’t love enough for both people.”

6. “Even if it doesn’t work out, marriage and a divorce can make you a stronger and kinder person.

7. “You’re not obliged to set yourself on fire in order to keep somebody else warm.”

8. “Don’t let the fear of being alone lead you to deny what you really want. Hold on tightly to personal integrity.”

9. “To recognize and show appreciation for the love given by that other person in your life on a daily basis. They need to actually hear it. I should have said it more often.”

10. “You have to ask yourself: ‘If you were someone of the opposite sex, would you date yourself?’ That kind of made me take a look at my own bad habits and behaviors in a different light. Now when I have a fight or a disagreement in my current relationship, I try to make sure I respond in a manner I would want my partner to respond in.”

11. “Humor and IQ will last longer than good looks.”

12. The petty nuances which make your blood boil are the things you miss when your ex is gone.”

13. “There is nothing wrong with being ‘picky.’ Some things are tolerable and of no consequence and some things aren’t. The trick is finding where the line between tolerable and intolerable lies for you.”

14. “You are in control of your own happiness. You need to be happy with yourself if you are to be in a healthy and happy relationship.”

15. “Be a thinker in your relationship. Common sense should rule, not your heart.”

16. Don’t disregard the red flags. I was insecure, naïve and thought I was being judgmental. Nope. He was a jerk and we had nothing in common.”

17. “That you should only be with someone that genuinely, freely, and entirely wants to be with you. Begging to be noticed is not healthy.”

18. “Communication in an argument isn’t about convincing your partner that you’re right. It’s about understanding.”

I love the idea of turning this into an “educational experience.”

I want to hear from you!

What lessons did you learn from heartbreak?

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Match Date Love Celebrates Mothers

Happy Sunny Friday To You!!!
 Happy Mothers Day to all of the Mothers reading this and to all of the Mothers we have in our lives. This Mother’s Day I get to celebrate being pregnant with my third baby.
            This week we found out we are having a baby boy! He is due to arrive this November. We are super excited to be growing our family as my Husband has 3 children and I have 2 children, so this is going to baby #6 for us!
    I am so thankful for the event and matchmaking staff that Match Date Love has to keep supporting our singles community in introducing you the best match to share your life with. I am continuing to enjoy matchmaking and coaching all of our women and men clientele during my pregnancy and after maternity leave. 
                   Since I am the oldest of six children, I have always wanted a big family and I feel like each one of you are a part of this child’s life as he grows up knowing how important love is. I haven’t been pregnant in almost 10 years so I am excited to share this journey with my Husband and also to inspire all of the singles I love working with that love, marriage, and babies are possible for those seeking.
 
                     Just don’t give up on your goals for love. As we continue to grow Match Date Love with our online dating classes and Love Coaching Consulting globally, we want to support you with reaching your goals with inviting the right partner into your life.
                   As we go into this weekend celebrating the one who special person in our lives… Our Mother. I hope your weekend is filled with thanking your Awesome Mom for all their love, support and guidance for the person we are today. 
                    I share my successes and struggles because we all have them and I understand the life of being single and wanting to find the right partner to invite into your life and our children’s lives. I hope to see you at one of our events soon and to introduce you to the partner you deserve. 
I look forward to seeing you soon!
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
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Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.

Seattle’s Dating Coach Renessa Rios: How to stay out of the friend zone

Seattle’s Dating Coach Renessa Rios How to stay out of the friend zone

Lets just be friends…. those words can bring comfort or pain depending on what your true intentions are for your relationship with your “friend” Once in the friend zone it can
be hard almost hurtful to try and move from platonic to romantic… on todays show we will go over
some ways to move your friendship to relationship and ever lasting love.

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New Love Opportunities In The Air

New Love Opportunities In The Air

Happy Tuesday To You!

Lets turn this new month into new beginnings and new opportunities for our love life!

I love doing new and fun events to get our singles in our city connecting. It is time to unplug and get off the internet and out of our home and offices and enjoy face to face encounters with singles that are on the same journey as you in your life.

Have good conversations, enjoy laughing and creating a connection that can turn into a friendship or even a loving relationship.

Over 70% of our attendees at all of our events are new singles that I have never met before that come from all of our online marketing. So always expect to meet new singles at our events.

I am here to support you if you need to build your confidence at events and on dates. I love coaching singles to sharing what is on their mind when conversing with someone new. This makes it easy to create attraction with the topics they choose to engage in that builds trust and intimacy. I offer a complimentary phone informational meeting to see if coaching is right for you. Click here to schedule our time together!

I look forward to seeing you soon!
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
match making and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.
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Express Your Love

Express Your Love

Happy Monday To You!
Are you ready to express yourself with purpose and passion with your online dating profile so you can experience more successful dates and start a loving and happy relationship? Women and men are ready to meet the real you, if you can express that online to build attraction then your possibilities are endless for love!
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Remember you have the opportunity to create a new beginning in your love life with Match Date Love. 
Remember do not give up on your love life, there are a lot of great singles waiting to meet you.
I look forward to seeing you soon!
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
Match maker and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.
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Singles That Are Ready To Mingle

Singles That Are Ready To Mingle

Happy Friday To You!

The hours it takes to organize these events for a 100 guests to attend and all of the awesome volunteers that give their time to connect and greet everyone that attends, is a true sign that there are women and men with loving hearts and are just wanting to meet the right person to share it with.
If you ever notice yourself talking negative about living the single life please know that there are great singles in our city wanting a happy long term committed relationship and are possibly just waiting to meet you!
Can you imagine that the right person is out there right now waiting to meet you and you just have to get out there and introduce yourself and enjoy a great conversation getting to know each other and the romance begins with the right partner!
You are just one introduction away from meeting the right partner for your life. Now if you need support with keeping the conversation going or flirting or building attraction, I would suggest connecting with me for a dating coaching session to support you with how you are introducing yourself and the words that are coming out of your mouth. I have helped singles build confidence, understand their audience of men or omen they are wanting to attract and most off all, they were able to authentically connect in a way that now they are in a loving relationship. 
Remember do not give up on your love life and  there are a lot of great singles waiting to meet you.
I look forward to seeing you soon!
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
match maker and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.
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Believe In Love

Believe In Love

“If you can dream it you can do it” said Walt Disney!
Happy Friday to you! I hope you had a great week so far.
Have you ever felt this way?
I was coaching a nice woman the other day and she was sharing with me how sometimes she feels like she will find a partner in life and then sometime she feels she won’t find a partner in life.
I know what that is like to be on the fence and feeling like “maybe” this going to happen or maybe it isn’t. Since she is on the fence, she has been going on a lot of dates this last year and not feeling chemistry with anyone.
I was not on the dates with her, but I do know about mind set and the energy we give off when we are in doubt or indecisiveness. I bet the men she was on dates with, felt her not really knowing if she wanted love or her doubt of wondering if this was the right partner for her.
There is a huge difference when going on a date believing in love and sharing and connecting and finding out after discovering who this person is, that you two are not compatible in many ways to not move forward but the idea of love is still strong in your heart just not towards that person.
This is completely different than showing up on a date feeling like love is not going to happen for you or that the other person has to perform a certain way for you to feel chemistry and then you not sharing who you truly are, so the other person feels like they are only meeting 30 percent of you, versus 80 or 90 percent. This changes the connection from them sharing same attention, connection and energy back towards you.
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We are always reflecting our emotions to those around us. If you feel happy, joyful, and appreciation because you know love is going to happen soon that will project from you. If you feel worry, concern, doubtful, judgmental or doubtful that will also project from you subconsciously and in your body language. We can instantly change how we feel by connecting to our dream of love and not the feelings of our current circumstances. It will happen for you and I am here to encourage you along the way. We all have our own dream for love, keep going out on dates, coming to single events, going to dating classes and connecting with your community. You are one “Hello” away from meeting the right partner.
I look forward to seeing you soon!
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
Match maker and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.
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Your New Page With Love Starts Now

Your New Page With Love Starts Now

Happy Wednesday To You!

I want to share with you a great way to restart your love life when sometimes it feels like you are putting in all of the right effort and not getting the result’s you want. I have felt this way in my life especially when growing my business to help singles in their love life.
I have had friends share with me that with my background, education and experience why don’t I just go get a corporate job and live happily ever after. I share with them that I love living out my passion everyday helping singles create the love life they deserve.
I also know that most corporate people would rather feel like they have the entrepreneur freedom that comes with owning your own business. But there is a lot of risk owning your own business as well.
In any case, I see a lot of singles that look at their love life very similarly to the safe corporate job feeling to the entrepreneur life, “why put in all the work, to build a new relationship that may not work out”, so instead they just stay safe with good friends, a good job, a lot of hobbies and traveling and not get too attached to someone new that may never work out.
It is hard to trust your instincts all over again when the last person you trusted in your love life did not work out. I know what you are feeling especially after my divorce I felt this exact same way.
 I too have trusted new employees, new managers, new assistants to find out later that the love business wasn’t what fulfilled their passion.
I did not get mad at them, I was thankful for the time we spent together. I was sad to see them leave but how many of us look at love the same way. That just because that person agreed to be with us and after being together for a certain amount of time, you two were not a good match,
Maybe they had bad communication, maybe they didn’t see the same long term future goals as you did, maybe they weren’t ready for the level commitment they thought they were months before meeting you.
It is sad and it hurts to see someone you trusted and even loved move on, but in some ways we have to be grateful that they didn’t just stay because they were afraid to hurt our feelings. Imagine if I had a staff that were just staying to help my company because they were afraid of hurting my feelings but did not care about all of the singles we help everyday.
This would not be a healthy company for our community and for myself the owner. Well I know a lot of people that are in jobs and relationships like this, they are afraid to move on to the unknown and play it safe by not hurting anyone’s feelings.

It is time for us to turn a new page and move on ourselves and be open to trusting and sharing our lives with the right person and in some cases we might have been the ones leaving our past relationships and its our time to open up and move into new territory, where we can find love with the right person. We are going to have trust and love again and in return I know the right person will show up in the right time!
I hope this helps you and I hope you can see in your life if you are playing it safe and how it is time to move on and begin new in love.
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
Match maker and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 local singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally.

Dating can be discouraging at times

Dating can be discouraging at times…

Happy Thursday To You!

    I hope your week is going great and you are ready for the weekend! I know that after Valentines Day it can be a huge relief to move past all of these holidays.
I always feel that from Thanksgiving Day to Valentines Day it can be a hard time for singles to go through, especially if this is your first year being single. I remember on one New Years Eve when I was single, I kissed the back of my hand on New Years Eve at midnight. I was my own date and although it was new for me and I wasn’t ready for a relationship after my divorce. I was happy because I didn’t feel stuck in a bad relationship anymore.
Dating can be discouraging at times, especially when we are going on  dates and not getting into the healthy and loving relationship we want.

I want to give you three ways to feel encouraged with dating, so you can feel energized on your next date night or singles event you attend! 
1. Get a pen and paper and write out all of the small things you are thankful for. The first step to getting more blessings in your life is to appreciate all of the ones you already have. List out 10 things you are thankful for today in detail such as your family, friends, home, car, job, you clothes, shoes, your breakfast, lunch and dinners, activities etc. Once you know what you are thankful for more, your bucket can grow for more blessings. Start to notice the small things in your life.
2. Appreciate someone today, thank someone today for them being who they are and let them know that you enjoy them and are thankful for them being in your life. This can be a call to family member, complimenting and encouraging a co-worker or a friend and this can also be someone at the coffee shop or next restaurant you dine in. Making someone else feel appreciated, actually makes you feel better as well. Practice sharing your feelings and this will grow you into a better partner in love as well.
3. Remember we are all life long learners and every experience and introduction is a lesson to grow into a better person for love and life. Encourage yourself to not give up on love and that every step you take towards your love life is one step closer to meeting the one. Sometimes we need to stop and have a good pep talk with ourselves and stop listening to all of the other outside influences and speak love and appreciation into ourselves. The next time you go out, others will be able to feel your confidence and when dating, your partner will feel that you are centered with who you are as woman or man.
I have a special night to ignite your flirting skills next Sunday evening and I would love to have you attend to support you in creating a wonderful new relationship.
Your Love Encourager, Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team.
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This Is Your Time To Be Loved

This Is Your Time To Be Loved

Happy Thursday To You!

    I hope your week is going great and you are ready for the weekend! I know that after Valentines Day it can be a huge relief to move past all of these holidays.
I always feel that from Thanksgiving Day to Valentines Day it can be a hard time for singles to go through, especially if this is your first year being single. I remember on one New Years Eve when I was single, I kissed the back of my hand on New Years Eve at midnight. I was my own date and although it was new for me and I wasn’t ready for a relationship after my divorce. I was happy because I didn’t feel stuck in a bad relationship anymore.
Dating can be discouraging at times, especially when we are going on  dates and not getting into the healthy and loving relationship we want.
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I want to give you three ways to feel encouraged with dating, so you can feel energized on your next date night or singles event you attend! 
1. Get a pen and paper and write out all of the small things you are thankful for. The first step to getting more blessings in your life is to appreciate all of the ones you already have. List out 10 things you are thankful for today in detail such as your family, friends, home, car, job, you clothes, shoes, your breakfast, lunch and dinners, activities etc. Once you know what you are thankful for more, your bucket can grow for more blessings. Start to notice the small things in your life.
2. Appreciate someone today, thank someone today for them being who they are and let them know that you enjoy them and are thankful for them being in your life. This can be a call to family member, complimenting and encouraging a co-worker or a friend and this can also be someone at the coffee shop or next restaurant you dine in. Making someone else feel appreciated, actually makes you feel better as well. Practice sharing your feelings and this will grow you into a better partner in love as well.
3. Remember we are all life long learners and every experience and introduction is a lesson to grow into a better person for love and life. Encourage yourself to not give up on love and that every step you take towards your love life is one step closer to meeting the one. Sometimes we need to stop and have a good pep talk with ourselves and stop listening to all of the other outside influences and speak love and appreciation into ourselves. The next time you go out, others will be able to feel your confidence and when dating, your partner will feel that you are centered with who you are as woman or man.
Your Love Encourager,
Renessa Rios-Strong and Love Activators Team
Match maker and dating coach Seattle
Founder Of Match Date Love; MDL hosts over 80 single events every year bringing together over 25,000 loca.l singles, MDL has successfully matched over 300 couples and MDL is the only dating company providing personal growth dating classes and flirting coaching in the Northwest, Beverly Hills – Los Angeles CA and Dating Coaching Online Globally